everyone that has been dumped secretly wishes the person that dumped them is crying into their pillow, wishing they didn't do it.

The truth is, they hardly ever are. I'm always amused by how strongly people believe in cliches when it comes to the end of a relationship. 'They won't last' 'Noone can love him like me' 'I'm the best thing that ever happened to him'...bullshit...bullshit...bullshit.

Human beings move on. It's what we do. Don't let Greys anatomy fool you into thinking that 10 years from now, the 17 year old love of your life will come swanning back as if they never left.

LIES. LIES. LIES.

Don't look at exceptions. People are exceptionally good at moving on. When you get dumped, so yourself a favour. Delete all contact information and social media alliances and move the hell on.

Stalking, even done in the privacy of your home, isn't cute.

Friendship Whores

I don't like being friends with whores. I don't mean that in the regular sense of people who have sex for money...I mean people that give everything to everybody. You know, the kind of person that has like 50 best friends. When something happens, everyone knows. They talk a lot to everyone. They don't really have that concept of 'special'. Everyone is special, so noone is special.

I cant have a relationship or friendship or anything that ends in 'hip' with anyone that treats everyone the same. Your friends are not your children...you're allowed to have favorites. Mind you, I don't want to be everybodys best friend. Far from it infact, that would be a nightmare. I like, however, to know where I stand in people's lives. If I'm an acquaintance, I want to be just that...if we're friends, that's good too. If EVERYBODY is your close friend, then the value of your friendship is diminished and I don't want.

Now, why am I writing this? I'm not sure. I guess some things really are just pointless.

Friendships, I find are exactly like relationships. Just the other day, a friend broke up with me. Like literally, break-up speech and everything. 'It's not you, it's the situation' (who actually says it's not you, it's me).

Anyway, I looked at my phone in amusement as the messages came in...each one a variation of the last. The most amusing was 'I don't want this to turn into an argument btw'...who argues when they are being broken up with?

It did make me think though. When someone expels you from their life, you should always think. It's so easy to imagine that you're the perfect person that someone is missing out on. Truth is, it's never really a matter of 'he who is wrong is wrong'...there's usually something to be learnt about improving yourself. Not altering yourself to the point where you're a completely different person...not changing yourself to suit someone else's idea of what you should be. Improving.

I did come to a few conclusions. It all boiled down to being more respectful of people. I may not be able or willing to change my laid-back attitude and if I call someone, I'm more inclined to open with conversation about myself and I often put myself far above others. These are all things that maybe should change, but probably wouldn't...right now.

The one thing I do want to change and have started to be more aware of is respect. For people, their opinions, their feelings and for friendships and the differences between expectations in any relationship.

So, what I'm saying is...respect.